tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3092745007880846052.post8470705635764035000..comments2023-10-25T04:49:40.457-04:00Comments on Tapper family blog: Overcoming "Flat-Brain Syndrome"KLThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07453532401536014707noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3092745007880846052.post-19783273397665924892011-04-14T22:28:25.698-04:002011-04-14T22:28:25.698-04:00Kristy - I LOVE LOVE LOVE this! Thank you for sha...Kristy - I LOVE LOVE LOVE this! Thank you for sharing. I will definitely try this with my guy. Seems like we are having similar weeks (honestly, I'm sure I've said this before, I can't get over some of the similarities in our lives - Jack was right!). <br /><br />I have used word pictures involving art with my guy before. When he's been repeatedly offending / hurting feelings, I've asked him to imagine if he had a beautiful picture that he made and really loved. I then asked him how he would feel if someone came along and tore off a piece or crumpled up a part of it. <br />He responds how mad or sad he would be. I then say, what if that person apologized, but came back a little while later and spit on the picture or tore off another piece of it. Would the apology seem real? How would you feel?<br />(And we may repeat the series one more time). I then say, when you do X to me (or to your brother) it feels like someone tearing bits and pieces off my masterpiece and not caring about me at all. When you apologize, but then do it again, it feels like that person who keeps destroying the picture.<br /><br />I've used this analogy at least twice with him and it seems to get him thinking. I usually do it when he is nice and calm and able to discuss it all. Certainly not in the heat of a problem.<br /><br />Thanks again, Kristy!Kathy Castorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472704791064291744noreply@blogger.com